Too Clique For You

I think I’m going to leave my August moms forum. Quietly. I just deleted it from my favorites, and I hope not to go back. They constantly undermine my suggestions, no one cares about advice from alternative moms when someone asks about a problem, and some of them say things that make my jaw drop (stupidity, shock, etc…) When people make snide comments about things that I believe in, it’s okay because it’s PC and I never bother to defend my beliefs because I know it’s pointless and I don’t want to look like an idiot.  A while ago I stood up for myself for the first time when someone bashed cosleeping, and I said I didn’t think that was fair. One person backed me up. She never said a word. Please… when I made a comment in disbelief about someone feeding their 4 or 5 month old sugary juice (Literally, “You feed your 4 month old juice?!”) I had to make a public apology.  I’m sick of the double-standard.
At least I didn’t get exiled from this board.

Everyone boasted that they get along so well, and they do, amoungst each other… but the subtle things are what drive me up the wall.

Is there such thing as a August 2003 natural parenting forum? Bah. If someone knows one, please tell me.

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  • mommajm says:

    I belong to one for my dd’s birth month which Sept ’01. Its a yahoo groups one and I’ve had to go from digest format emails to just checking the boards. I don’t post much because I feel like I have to be very careful about what I say and how I respond. I’m somewhere between alternative and mainstream, I guess. But I don’t really fit in all that well with them.

  • salisya says:

    I had to do the same thing with a group for Feb 2003 moms. Yet I decided to open my mouth with ECing.
    I ended up leaving earlier than you. About 3 months after dd was born. It hurt my heart too much at what these women thought was ok for their children. 🙁

    Good for you for standing up. I had never found a list specifically for my dd month, but have found a few good alt parenting groups on yahoo.

  • tahoebean says:

    yuck, this isn’t a board on ivillage is it? I hate that site… 🙂

    I post regularly on a parenting after a loss board, all of the women are super-nice, and I’ve known them through multiple miscarriages, ttc-ing, pregnancy and now child-rearing 🙂 We don’t all have the same parenting “ideals” but we are all respectful of eachother, and there are never any snide remarks or drama. I can send you a link if you’re interested in checking it out! 🙂

    • admin says:

      No, it’s not Ivillage. I left Ivillage because I was EXILED from that August mom’s board. 😉 They all boycotted my posts.

      I really really want an August ’03 specific board… but thank you for the offer.

      • tahoebean says:

        bwahaha, I was once a cl on ivillage… and it did not end well 😀

        I could create an Aug03 board for you on Gynosaur.com if you can find any other like-minded mommas to start it off with… I get good traffic so I’m sure you’d have more women joining in no time!

  • momgoddess says:

    My youngest was born in July 02 and I had to leave my July Moms forum about 2-3 months after the babies were born (I was a member since the first pregnancy test) just for those reasons. There were only about 3 of us breastfeeding out of 100+ mamas and the formula feeders were offended by our posts of encouragement and support in those first tough months because it was “offensive” and made them feel “guilty” ::rolling eyes:: So I just left. I can’t stand mainstream parenting communities….they make me want to scratch my eyeballs out.

    The only parenting forums that I go to now are the Amity Mamas and a couple groups here on LJ.

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